(All characters referred to are the book characters or an original character. None are based on any RP characters.)#375: How do you act during a break-up?I isolate myself. I pack myself away from everyone else. Perhaps it's a pride thing - I don't very much like crying in front of others. Or perhaps it's just something that's been ingrained in me ever since I understood the concept of breaking up.
When I was twelve, and, in the loosest terms possible, "broke up" with my boyfriend, I hid myself in the Girls Dormitories and cried. Mind, the relationship was one of those where we were boyfriend and girlfriend in words only. We didn't hold hands or kiss. We didn't even speak. I still can't fathom how we had the words to break it off.
In my Fourth Year, I was seeing this Ravenclaw. We held hands and kissed. Proper relationship stuff. When I broke it off, I kept to the Dormitory or the library. I didn't cry - or, at least, I tried not to. I didn't understand the point of wasting tears over a bloke. Sure, he wasn't a bad one or anything, but all the qualities I found endearing in him quickly turned into things I hated. He was a very tall bloke, something that I quite fancied about him, but his using me as an arm rest whenever we were standing and talking to someone else quickly lost its appeal.
I think that somewhere between Potter chasing after me and, well, Sev, that I stopped isolating myself and started pushing people away.
This wasn't a break-up. But this was the worst kind of break-up I've ever had. And I hope it's my only one. When I broke off my friendship with Severus, I felt so completely devastated. I tried to isolate myself. It's harder to do that when it's your best friend you're breaking away from. He found me in my usual hideout - the library - and kept being very persistent. I've never really experienced this before. Even when I had a fight with one of my friends, they'd just leave me to cool off. But not Sev. He almost slept outside the Gryffindor portrait hole just so he could have an opportunity to speak with me.
So, because I couldn't isolate myself quite the way I wanted to, I pushed him away. My previous break-ups - at least, I've only ever had them romantically - they were cut completely. The tie that bound us was severed and we went our different ways. Sev and I - we did go our different ways. I surely know of that. But I was trying to severe our tie and he was trying to glue it back together.
I think that my reaction to break-ups relies on who I'm breaking up with. If it's a bloke where I have no history prior to us getting together, I'll isolate myself until I don't think of him anymore and don't feel absolutely awkward whenever we run into each other. If it's a friend, well, isolating myself just won't do. Pushing them away is the only thing that works.
I guess that, when I compare (and I don't like to dwell on Severus because it hurts a bit too much), my isolating myself with my past break-ups was me gently pushing them away.
MUSE: Lily Evans Potter
FANDOM: Harry Potter
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